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Sunday, May 19, 2013

Clarity or Excommunicated Part II

When I woke up this morning, I saw that I got responses for my post about blogging pet peeves and how I feel about certain aspects of blogging culture.  Regardless of how people felt about what I put, I thought having that type of discussion was really good.  It got people discussing issues that go on in "blogger politics."
I know it sounds silly, but it exists.

After I wrote back some responses, I went to the 11 am service for church and had some time to reflect.  I certainly didn't mean to hurt any individual person's feelings, but if I did I am truly sorry.  In no way am I trying to say that because of x, y, z my experiences have more of a profound effect than yours.  That's why at the start of the post I said that it's a rant.  But the fact of the matter is there is a type of blogging culture that thrives off of numbers and my post called it out.  The sermon we had today kind of fits this and I'd like to share it with all of you but that'll happen later in the post.

First I want to clarify what I mean by "crap writing" because I often reference it. When I say something is "crap writing" I'm calling it out because I know that the writer can do better work and they're half-assing it.  Not everyone has a content-driven blog but if you are a good writer and bloggers are investing money into ad space or businesses are investing products, then for me it's an ethical issue on what type of content you put out there.  Sometimes you need "potato chip posts" because they're fun to consume (I love to read those), but I find it so incredibly disappointing when a blogger has the best posts and you can see the content declining.  No way would I ever call anything that was written from a personal, deep place as crap writing.  I love reading what bloggers are willing to share.  I also think that people know what I'm referring to as crap writing and potato chip posts.  I'm not referring to writing style, grammatical errors, or even what you choose to write about in your life.  I'm referring to a reliance on filler content.  This does not mean beauty bloggers, fashion bloggers, DIY or anything else.  If that's your niche, I expect to see a lot of pictures.  I love photography and I like to see it on any blog, that's not the bigger issue.

What I don't like to see is a building up of an ego over a numbers game.  The numbers game in blogging is the number of readers you have on GFC or Bloglovin.  Based on the number of readers a blogger has, that becomes a business opportunity for companies to give you products to review.  That makes sense, that's just smart business especially because people trust word-of-mouth and bloggers fit a wide range of target markets.  However, if a product doesn't fit what you blog about, your lifestyle, or even your readership, it's up to you to establish whether or not that's a good thing to review.  I've seen multiple glasses reviews for people who don't use assisted vision devices such as glasses or contacts.  They can cost up to $300 or more depending on your prescription.  Having someone review them who does not have the credibility to do so is just really strange to me.  I personally would rather see those types of donations to children who need glasses and not a blogger who doesn't use them.  That was just one example because there are so many other people in the world that actually need them.  I've seen product reviews on the most random foundations and it's always interesting to see how a blogger will write about it.

This same type of business sense segways to companies that target bloggers to review products that probably won't benefit your readers.  I did get mad at a company for contacting me about a dress subscription that was expensive.  In later reflection maybe it was a good move for the business to cast a wider net of bloggers to see who might be interested.  However, as someone who loves clothes, I would much rather see a post on KiKi La'Rue and their products.  Everyone raves about their customer service, their quality products and consistent pricing.  If I'm going to put $40 on a dress, it's not going to be on a subscription for a dress rental, it's going to be on an actual dress.  I occasionally get to do reviews on products but I'm honest about it because from my demographic, I'm a young married woman who has a limited budget.  That doesn't mean I don't want nice things but it does mean that I look at the credibility of people and companies who are discussing products before I buy them.  I think many readers, especially bloggers who have a small readership can relate.

With my church sermon today, the concept of taking risks was discussed.  A lot goes into blogging.  When you choose to write about issues that bother you or something that is personal, you take a risk and you have to be willing to fail.  Did I take risk? Yes and some people didn't like that and some people liked the discussion.  I'm also positive I lost a reader but that's ok because I probably wasn't a good fit for that person.  I also was called out on being critical of other bloggers but how I see it as that if we're not critical then we risk losing what we gain from blogging.  Blogging is our new age of journaling and each blog is different with different perspectives and new things to gain.  However, I'm not going to say that something that is half-assed deserves a gold star.     

Another topic we discussed in the sermon was being united on the same front.  A lot of people suggested that I just stop following blogs but if I stopped following every blogger that occasionally put up a potato chip post then I'd have to stop blogging myself.  If I really don't like a blog then I do stop following it but this is so much more than not following a blog.  This is a cultural change that is needed in this type of community.  We often see movements against this flare up every now and then.  A few months ago this happened with the debates between large giveaways and "buying readers." I don't participate in those monetarily because it's not a good fit for me.  However this blogging community runs on a numbers game and so many people feel that in order to have some sense of competitiveness they need to participate in large giveaways.  I think it's important that bloggers are held accountable because it's a reflection of us, our blogging community, and the businesses we represent.  By putting out filler content constantly and doing product reviews that you're not credible for, that's not putting your best foot forward.  On the same grounds, we still have to remain flexible.  There will be crappy posts and bloggers who continue to do these types of product reviews (I do like product reviews, just throwing that out there).  Regardless, we (especially I) still need to understand not everyone is going to have the same set of ethics or values.  

Finally I wanted to address the marriage post.  I occasionally talk about difficulties with my marriage, but I do that because I know people can relate.  Sometimes people need to hear that someone else is going through that, whether it's in a marriage, common law marriage, or long-term relationship.  No relationship is automatically easier than the other.  We all have shades that are better than the other.  Each has their own trials and difficulties.  With a military relationship if something bad happens, the spouse is notified but if you're dating, the significant other has to find out from a family member.  I could not imagine how trying on the heart that must be.  Also with military relationships, many people get married because it's incredibly difficult to not be.  I always have a lot of respect for various military relationships because no way are they easy.  I hope no one felt that I was downplaying their relationship.  I do believe that the quote I was trying to explain was that regardless of how confident you are in paying bills or living together, sequences of events will provide different hardships.  That's why when newlyweds or people who have been together for years say it's hard, it's because it is and they're not trying to downplay your experiences but share that with you

Blogs change. They're like a living, breathing organism and sometimes it works out and other times you just need to hit "unfollow."  However, I still think it's important to address this because we shouldn't be okay with mediocrity.  We should be challenging each other to be the best we can be.

  

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The moment I became excommunicated

This is a rant and it's not meant to look or sound even remotely pretty.
You may even want to stop reading here.  Yup now because I'm sure I'll be covering some recent posts that even my favorite bloggers have written.

I have a few pet peeves with blogging.  I like to blog because I like to write.  I actually like to write and not just share random pictures of bottles of liquor or a skirt that can be used for two different outfits.  If people enjoy my writing, pictures, and anything else I share on here than that's awesome.  

I blog because it's a lot of fun and I really, truly enjoy reading the stories of other people.  But that being said, maybe I'm just not a cool kid.  I've been blogging for over a year now and am so glad to have the readers that I do.  I not only write for myself but on issues and things that I feel other people might care an ounce about.  However bloggers,  not excluding myself, care a lot about their self-appearance and branding themselves.

That's why it appears that some bloggers drink an obscene amount of alcohol and are in a constant haze of drunken stupor.  My question is, are they constantly that drunk?  *side-eye*  I mean that's one helluva a trip on branding your blog. 

This branding and levels of readership also quantifies absolute crap writing.
I talk about crappy writing a lot on this blog.  I'm sorry, I'm a content snob.

I have been invited to participate in buy-in giveaways and I have seriously thought about it but I am still not comfortable with the idea.  I don't care if you participate in buy-in giveaways because the prize is awesome and allows for people to discover different blogs. 

It's just not for me. 

I don't want people to follow my blog, Twitter or Instagram because I threw in money into a pot.  I've also seriously started to dread sponsoring other blogs for this same reason.  When I visit a blog, do I check out the sidebars...no.  If a blog can speak for itself, I'll find it and if they have quality posts then I become a loyal follower.  This week alone I found two blogs that I just love (A Beautiful Mess and Delightfully Tacky).  I want more readers but part of feels like if I can't step up my writing and posts, then the readership is an actual reflection of that.    

I'm at a stage where despite not having a "ton of readers," I do get e-mails.  What does that mean?  It means that I don't get free product, which is fine, but I get told about it.  So yes, I know about that fun clothing company opportunity that costs like $50 a month.  You don't need to go out and buy a new dress as long as you can subscribe to our dress rental membership

NO
NO
NO

I am always polite and considerate to people who e-mail me.  But I am not interested in an opportunity for you to overcharge me or my readers on a dress subscription service.  If I'm going to put down anything over $30 on a dress or outfit, I'm probably going to buy it from KiKi LaRue because I have been wanting to purchase a dress from there (plus I follow the company on Instagram and they always have great customer service).  There is no way on God's Green Earth that I am going to subscribe to rent a dress for the cost of a dress.  What are you smoking?

So I think it's safe to say that you e-mailing because you felt that I would be interested in an overcharged service was you making a wrong assumption. 

Speaking of sponsorships, I have consistently seen companies sending product to bloggers who have zero credibility for,  like sending children's products for a blogger to review who doesn't have children or glasses to someone who doesn't wear glasses.  Insert Mean Girls quote: she doesn't even go here.  As someone who studied marketing and advertisement, I'm going to tell you this, I am not going to trust the opinion of someone who doesn't wear glasses or contacts.  Why? Because they don't know the annoyance of finding a pair that does not consistently fall down the bridge of your nose or that the arms of the glasses go too far past your ears or that they look nice with the shape of your face.  I could go on and on because I've had glasses since fourth grade and not just for a tripod photoshoot.  The second "what are you smoking" moment.

Finally, assumptions made on bloggers.  When a blogger says that married life is difficult is because it is and that's no joke.  There are certain events of a young person's life that are difficult.  We all have bills and eat a lot of Ramen.  However, the difference is that you combine that with not just living with another person but being unified with that person.  You are sharing the same bank account and as easy as it is to share that in a sentence, it's a whole different enchilada when it comes to applying that in real life.  You share everything and not just an apartment space.  So those big girl and big boy loans become a shared asset and insurance, taxes, mortgages, etc. all become shared.  I did all of those adult style bills while being single and of course after I got married as well and I can tell you that it's significantly more difficult as a married person.  So when someone says that marital life is completely different than handling singledom responsibilities, they are telling the truth.  It's certainly not glitter and rainbows either way, but do not think that marriage is going to be this cake walk because you've got yourself a career and have doing the big girl thing for awhile now. 

I already have a post up but I just wanted to rant.  I needed to get this off my chest because despite trying to put out quality posts I see this nonsense up all of the time.  I like a variety of bloggers and I don't think we should all be the same because we're not.  However, somethings just don't make sense to me.

I'm not going to end this on a funky note though.  I did participate in Bout of Books' Read-a-Thon with Twitter chats called TweetChats and it has been a blast.  This has been a great way to discover different bloggers and people who just enjoy reading.  If you like to read, need an excuse to sit down and read, or have a pile of books calling your name, check out Bout of Books.  It was such a fun opportunity and that experience kind of showed me that I need to re-tailor my blogging experience.

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Sunday, November 25, 2012

Criticisms from a Content Snob and Other Weekend Delights

 
This blog post is a long one and this weekend has been wonderful.
I'm going to talk a little bit about my weekend, the dwindling content of blogs, a rant on the social media intertwining religion into politics, and then rave about new tactics using social media and religion (gosh, talk about a double standard).

Let's get started
 
To have the opportunity to do absolutely nothing or everything has been such a privilege- I'm referring to the rare, yet beautiful natural occurrence of a chill weekend.  I have been stressing and working countless hours (and by countless, I've actually had to record them but that's another story).  So for me, this weekend has been sheer bliss.  I have my husband here and my wonderful roommate is actually in Vegas enjoying the holiday with her family

So I've had some time to go over my Google Reader account and update my blog.
Have you checked out my new header (yep, right up there)?  It took me a couple of hours but I actually really like how it turned out and I greatly disliked the one I had up previously, but we all have to make-do with our own temporary fill-ins every once in awhile.  I'm still updating my buttons and pages here and there so please be patient and kind with me :P

I've also taken a look at my sponsor page and I've made the decision that I don't want to charge people for being a "sponsor" on this page.  I was more than thrilled to have 37 Google Connected readers on this page alone, but I also believe that's due to investing more time and $$ (so literally investing into my blog) and I have been seeing the benefits.  
What I do want to emphasize, however, is that this is a lifestyle blog.   I craft whenever I have time, bake when I crave sweets (which basically every 5 minutes...the craving not necessarily the baking) and give reviews when I can.   Like how many others have started, this is an outlet for me.  You're not going to find a giveaway here for quite some time, unless some ridiculously creative soul decides to sponsor me, and I do feature the people who swap buttons with me but many of those bloggers are in the same boat as I am, and we're just adjusting the sails to the storm that is Blogger.  I do love reading other blogs and hearing the stories from the perspectives of interesting, often incredibly entertaining people.  Right now, I'm just in the mood to swap- so feel free to swap with me.  If you go to my sponsor page, I would love to have you as a guest and there's no charge or devious trick up this blogger's sleeve.  Simply put in the promo code and you're welcome to promote for 30 days on the page and to keep on promoting for months after.

...and here is where I become the content snob

Something I've noticed from the bigger, "granddaddy of all blogs" 
types is that their content is starting to waver.  
*Looks around* 
not that I'm saying it's the fault of any of the bloggers 
but seriously, the content is starting to lack in a negative way.  
I'm seeing a lot more fluff and not a lot of the original style posts that made me want to subscribe to those bloggers in the first place.  So I pulled out a friend flush.  I'm sorry, I would like to say I feel terrible, but it had to happen.  I'm seeing that these once awesome blogs are having 3000+ readers but are doing more giveaways than actual articles, more outfits of the day than what's really on their mind and that bugs me.  Going off on a small rant, outfit of the day posts bother me because I'm not entirely sure what their purpose is...other than to show people either 
a). how to dress b). what you have in your closet c). what you can afford
It's filler- and not very good filler at that (apart from dedicated fashion blogs). 
I wonder if the pressures of having that many readers, combined with sponsorships starts to degrade the quality of a blog.  People are busy and lives are to be had, not everyone can spend the amount of time it takes to run a highly effective blogging system.  
Nevertheless, my suggestion for revision on those types of posts would be to wear that cute outfit while doing an awesome activity.  In the caption, you can have the details of the outfit but the post itself will talk about something worthy of having your readers visit your blog.  

Single paragraph content also swims into this category as well.  I'm seeing a very small topic being stretched over a paragraph and that being considered a full post.  
I'm excited that Google Reader features one of my favorite blogs at the top of the page and then quickly let down as I read the "new post" from some of my favorite bloggers and it's a recipe or the entire post is dedicated to an invitation design.  Not that I don't appreciate a scrumptious meal that I can whip up in under 20 minutes or that your party theme is super adorable 
but gahhh you're killin' me smalls!

We follow lifestyle blogs, or at least I do, because you've invited us into a very intimate part of you- your perspective of your life.  Your ups and downs, glimpses of your partner and families, the things you're reading, heck, even the cleaning products you use. I miss the spontaneity.  I love Instagram, and I follow many bloggers through that social media.  The worst is when they say, I'm saving this for a post next week. Post, share, and let us envy you now versus in seven days. Where's the fun in that? ;)

We want the stories, so make them good.
In fact, your stories are already good...just keep posting.

\\\ back to our regularly scheduled blog post ///

 Rants, Raves, & Reviews

RANTS

I saw this on Pinterest
I'm not entirely sure how I feel about it or how to accurately verbalize this, but I don't like it.
I'm a follower of Christ and something about this specific message rubs me the wrong way.
Honestly, I think it has something to do with how during this entire election season, one political party seemed to be using religious zealotry against a very politically divided country.  Mud slinging was occurring non-stop (from both parties) and I saw this message weeks later, 
after the election results occurred and that in itself also puts a bad taste in my mouth.
I don't consider myself all that religious but I do follow the teachings of Christ.
I know it sounds contradictory but I love God, I'm just not a huge fan of many of his followers.
He cared about everyone and forgave the outcasts of society and 
died for everyone's sins so that we could all be forgiven.
I don't feel comfortable associating him with the horrible things 
said and that still occur post-election season.  Post-election, people (not everyone) have been rude and to me seem very un-Christian-like.
I understand that not everyone may feel the same about this, but if you choose to comment, please keep it considerate, with thoughtful commentary.

But to switch up the bad vibes, let's head on over to my  
RAVE
 cuz I found this totally amazing blog 
that has this link-up called, "Let's Get Praisy."
Jami Nato relates Bible verses to rap and pop song lyrics.
Say whaaat?
chyeaa and I absolutely love it!

Source: Jami Nato, The Nato's
Now everytime I hear these songs, I think of different Bible verses and I think that is awesome!
It's innovative, fun, and makes me want to teach CCD to high school students.
Well maybe not that far, unless they let me use the wisdom of Jami Nato.
You can find more links on her blog.  I need to contribute something- oh you fancy, huh?

I've also been dying to read a few books.  The first is Gone Girl and I have been seeing mad reviews for this novel and have yet to click purchase for Kindle.  I need to make the commitment.  The constantly mentioned plot's twists and turns are driving me to read this every single time I see it, either at Target or on Amazon.  I've also been wanting to read Junot Diaz's, This is How You Lose Her.  People are starting to quote it and saying it gives a realistic look on love (it is a fictional story, however).  I'm also interested in The Round House, which has been featured on Oprah's reading list throughout numerous magazines and e-mail lists (I get them all).  On a sidenote, I'm sort of obsessed with Oprah, I mean who wouldn't want to be the best gift-giver on the planet?  Last, but not least, I love the Young House Love blog! What an adorable family!  They've just come out with their first book and I've been all over their Instagram feed as they go to their first book signings.  I just love the vibe that family gives, they're awesome people.

Gone Girl: A Novel This Is How You Lose Her

The Round HouseYoung House Love: 243 Ways to Paint, Craft, Update & Show Your Home Some Love 


Now that it's officially past Black Friday and as you saw in my last post about my home decor for the holidays, we finally were able to put lights up!  I love love love the holiday season and I am so excited to be able to spend this year's Christmas season with my husband.  Afghanistan will not have him this year, although that is not the case for many, so please have our service members in your thoughts this holiday season.  With my husband in tow, I am glad to be starting some of my favorite traditions, including Starbucks holiday drinks, Christmas music while driving to work, admiring holiday lights, finding the perfect Christmas present, watching holiday movies and so much more!

I hope you all had a wonderful weekend!